UNEXPECTED GRATITUDE
Gratefulness, or gratitude, is the quality of being thankful and appreciating the aspects of life, whether they are big or small. It involves recognizing and acknowledging the kindness of others and the gifts we receive, which can lead to a more positive outlook on life. Research has shown that practicing gratitude can enhance mental well-being, improve relationships, and foster resilience during difficult times (Emmons & McCullough, 2003). By cultivating an attitude of gratefulness, individuals can experience greater happiness, reduced stress, and a deeper connection with others.
According to Harvard Health, gratitude can be expressed in different ways. You can be grateful for past experiences, the present things, and the changes you are currently experiencing, or for the things to come.
Being grateful does not always focus on the positive aspects of life, but also the negative, for each experience teaches us something new about ourselves and allows us to find more ways to navigate situations and relationships. This, in turn, helps shift our outlook on, mostly, past and present experiences. It rids the feeling of hopelessness, fosters optimism, and encourages healthier coping strategies. Gratitude can be a stabilizing force for individuals navigating stress, transitions, or mental health struggles, gratitude acts as a stabilizing force.
Unexpected Sources of Gratitude
- Career and Life Change
- Educational Achievements
- Family and Support Systems
Why Gratitude Matters
Gratitude strengthens mental health by:
- Encouraging positive emotions that counterbalance stress and anxiety (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).
- Building stronger social bonds, which are essential for emotional support (Rye et al., 2022).
- Enhancing resilience, making it easier to navigate setbacks (Harvard Health Publishing, 2021).
Ways to Express/Cultivate Gratitude
- Writing a thank-you note
- Thanking someone mentally
- Keeping a gratitude journal
- Counting your blessings
- Praying
- Meditating
In conclusion, gratitude does not always appear in ways we expect. It often shows up in the midst of challenges, reminding us that even in difficult seasons, there are reasons to be thankful. By embracing unexpected gratitude, individuals can nurture mental health, deepen relationships, and find strength in the journey of life.
MY GRATITUDE STORY
I am grateful for the beginning of my tech journey, even when it seems like everything isn’t coming together yet. I often feel frustrated because using a malfunctioning smartphone for tech-related tasks can be incredibly challenging. However, in the midst of this, God sent me a helper—someone who provided me with a laptop and covered my training expenses.
I am also thankful for the ability to quit my 9-to-5 job, which drained my energy and negatively impacted my mental well-being. This change has given me the resources to be innovative and the push I needed to start a new venture.
I appreciate a friend who has stood by me despite the hurtful things I did when I was not at my best. She loves me and never gave up on our friendship. I am grateful for the gift of her companionship.
I am thankful for reconnecting with a long-lost friend. During my lowest days, he provided me with something money can’t buy: an invitation to a life-changing community of people, something I never knew I needed. What I initially thought would be just for fun turned into an unforgettable experience that has enriched my life.
I am also grateful for my admission into school. At one point, I thought it was the end of my educational journey; countless exams and numerous demeaning words had left me feeling hopeless, but I strived, and now I am hopeful and excited for what the next semester brings.
Lastly, I am grateful for my family. They are the real MVPs; they inspire me, elevate me, and most importantly, they bring me joy that no one can take away.
REFERENCES
Emmons, R. A., McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377-389. Retrieved from https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/pdfs/GratitudePDFs/6Emmons-BlessingsBurdens.pdf
Harvard Health Publishing. (2021). Giving thanks can make you happier. Harvard Medical School. Retrieved from https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier
Rye, Mark & Schiavo, Kristen & Tsaligopoulou, Anna. (2022). Focusing on Gratitude: Implications for Mental Health. 10.5772/intechopen.107286.
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/366825501_Focusing_on_Gratitude_Implications_for_Mental_Health
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